Maybe you’ve noticed that your child is struggling to interact with other kids their age. They might have just started school, and it seems like they’re struggling to make friends with their classmates. Perhaps they seem to get nervous when they’re around groups in general. You can’t seem to pinpoint exactly when it started, but you’re concerned about their wellbeing.
Now, you’re wondering when this issue crosses the line from shyness that they might grow out of, to a social anxiety condition that might call for professional support. Here are a few signs to look out for that may indicate your child is struggling with social anxiety.
Nervousness in Group Situations
When your child enters a group situation, they suddenly clam up. The happy, bubbly child you used to know seems to disappear in an instant. All of the sudden, the noise and activity becomes overwhelming. They might start crying, try to hide behind you, or even attempt to duck under the furniture or run out of the room.
This can happen when you’re around strangers, or when you’re in a group of people you know. Your child does not tend to get over the initial nervousness within a few minutes. Instead, their anxiety worsens the longer you spend around the group, and you may end up leaving events early because of this.
Difficulty Making Friends
At school or during activities with other kids, your child struggles to interact with their peers. They might beg not to attend school or extracurriculars, like team sports. Your child might have an easier time talking or playing with other kids in one on one sessions, but some children with social anxiety struggle in these situations, too.
If this happens throughout the first few days of school, it could just be a normal adjustment period. But if the problem persists, it could be an indicator of social anxiety. Their teacher may have expressed concerns to you about your child’s difficulties with socializing.
Symptoms Disappear at Home
What if your child doesn’t have trouble interacting with your family? For example, they might shut down around other people. Yet at home, they can easily talk and play for hours with the rest of the family.
If your child is exceptionally sensitive to their environment and has difficulty verbalizing their thoughts at home, it may be a sign of developmental delay. But if their social skills shine through around your family, yet dissipate when they leave the home, it may be social anxiety.
Gradual Exposure
How can you start to address social anxiety in your child? Trying to rush them into social situations they aren’t ready for will likely backfire. Instead, gradually introduce them to social situations for short periods of time, and make sure that you have an exit strategy.
It’s also a good idea to talk to their teacher about what you can do at home to help them feel more comfortable in the classroom.
Work with a Therapist
Guiding your child as they overcome their social anxiety can be tricky. You might worry about whether you’re trying to push them too hard, or if you’re not being encouraging and supportive enough. You don’t need to navigate this chapter all on your own.
Instead, consider working with a counselor who specializes in child therapy. A counselor who understands childhood social anxiety can provide critical support for your child and your family.
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